Amanda Johnson

Love the life you have and have the life you want


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How to Have Your Ego and Beat It, Too

A recurring thought of mine as I’ve been on this journey and started my own business has been: “How do I operate from a place with no ego while building a business centered around letting go of ego?”

First of all, for those of you asking yourselves, “What in the world is she talking about? What is this ‘ego’ she keeps referring to?”

Much of how I think about the ego and what I mean when I talk about the ego is based on Eckhart Tolle’s definition of ego: “Ego is the unobserved mind that runs your life when you are not present as the witnessing consciousness, the watcher.”

In other words, whenever you find yourself getting in your head about something, the ego is in full swing. {Tweet that!}

Now, back to my dilemma (because I know you’re dying to find out what I’m discovering).

As Eckhart Tolle reminds us, there is no getting rid of the ego. The best we can do is observe it as often as we can. By bringing attention to it, we begin to break the hold it has on our lives and operate from a more conscientious place (as opposed to operating on auto-pilot).

If you are interested to learn more about how I’m coming to terms with this and how it can apply to your own life, check out this week’s video.

In this video, I share one of the quickest ways for us to go from knowing what to do with our ego to doing it and just how powerful of a shift that can be.

The ego is here to stay but that doesn’t mean it gets the final say. {Tweet that, too!}

Start to notice when your ego (that part of yourself that feels attached to outcomes and rules, likes and dislikes, identities and beliefs) reacts to something or desires something. Simply noticing when it occurs is the very way to begin to take its power away.

And the less power our ego has in our life, the less frustration and more compassion we can experience.

Now it’s your turn. What do you do when you notice yourself getting in your head too much or operating on auto-pilot?

Hop on over to the blog to share your wisdom in the comments below this video! I absolutely love learning what works for others and your tip might be just the thing someone needs to hear today.

So many of us (myself included!) spend so much time and energy getting attached to the idea of being “ego-less” that it becomes just another thing we identify with (which the ego loves!). So please pass this along to anyone who feels the need to rid themselves of their ego or might benefit from learning the quickest way to experience less frustration and more ease.

With gratitude …

PS I’d love to include you in my updates on the program I’ll be launching later this summer, so be sure to sign up here if you haven’t already! As a gift, you’ll receive my dirty little secrets to loving the life I have.

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How to Get out of Overwhelm

As a world-class list-maker and scheduler, I know all too well just how to fill my calendar with to-do’s, appointments, and deadlines.

For a very long time I actually wasn’t sure if I could function without these things in place.

It’s only been in the last few months that I’ve tried something new. And, during one of my Masterclass calls this week with Jeannine Yoder it became really clear to me just how overwhelming the idea of all of these lists and deadlines are to me now.

I admit that I might have swung a little too far on the pendulum, and I don’t necessarily suggest that everyone rid their life of to-do lists and deadlines.

But I will say that the greatest thing I’ve learned from doing so is that I’m okay without these things and my days feel significantly less overwhelming.

If any of this resonates with you and you’re interested in experiencing less overwhelm in your life, then be sure to check out this week’s video.

In the video, I’m going to share with you some great advice I received on how to assess where we spend our time and develop a deeper sense of true productivity and power.

If you know anyone who tends to create lists or fill their calendar in order to feel productive or accomplished, then please share this with them so that they can learn one simple question to ask each day to stay out of overwhelm and in their truth.

I’m not suggesting that all list-making and deadlines are useless.

Sometimes the best thing we can do in the moment is make a list or move towards a deadline. And other times we use these things simply as a distraction to help us think we are being productive.

There’s an alternative to lists and deadlines to feel productive and empowered. {Tweet this!}

Now I want to hear from you. What are your favorite tips to stay out of overwhelm?

Hop on over to the blog to share your wisdom in the comments below this video! I absolutely love learning what works for others and your tip might be just the thing someone needs to hear today.

Life isn’t about filling our task list and calendar with things to keep us busy and feeling productive. So please pass this along to anyone who might benefit from learning how to stay out of overwhelm and instead focus on those things that matter most.

With gratitude …

PS I’d love to include you in my updates on the program I’ll be launching later this summer, so be sure to sign up here if you haven’t already! As a gift, you’ll receive my dirty little secrets to loving the life I have.


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What I’ve Learned from the Playground

First of all, a huge thank you to everyone who took time to read my announcement and complete my super-short survey! Your responses were fantastic and I look forward to addressing them in the coming weeks. Who knows, your question might even be the next topic for Thoughtful Thursday!

(If you’re curious about what I’m talking about, check this out.)

Now, on to this week’s Thoughtful Thursday.

I’ve never been much of a scientist. Or a cook for that matter. The whole idea of experimenting with things has often left me with butterflies in my belly.

I had this belief that I had one shot to get something “right.” So not only would I put pressure on myself to do things perfectly right out of the gate, I also wouldn’t allow myself the freedom to try something else if it didn’t work.

This has either resulted in me not doing anything at all (out of fear that I won’t succeed the first time) or continuing to do something that just isn’t working (because that’s the way I started doing it, so that’s the way I keep doing it).

Can you relate?

I most recently noticed this coming up for me in how I was creating my Thoughtful Thursdays, so I took a spoonful of my own medicine and added a bit more play to this week’s video.

If you’re anything like me and find you either take yourself a little too seriously or aren’t even willing to try something in the first place for fear of “making a mistake,” then check out this week’s video.

In this video, I’m going to share a couple of the greatest things I’ve learned from watching kids on the playground and how we can apply this to our grown-up worlds.

Imagine if someone told a chef there is only one way to cook an egg. They’d laugh (or something worse)!

So it is with life. There are many ways to whip up the experience we want so long as we are willing to play and experiment with the ingredients until we get the taste we desire.

It is up to us to create the dish we desire by experimenting with the ingredients of life. {Tweet this!}

Now I want to hear from you. What is your favorite way to keep the play and experimentation alive in your life?

Hop on over to the blog to share your comments below this video and get ideas from others.

Life isn’t about getting it “right” the first time around (or the second or third or fourth). As I heard someone very wise once say, “Life is a playground.” So please pass this along to anyone in your life who you think might benefit from being reminded to keep the play alive and experience more joy in life!

With gratitude …

PS If you like these reminders and want to stay up-to-date on the exciting announcement I mentioned at the beginning, be sure to sign up here! I’d love to include you in my updates.


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How to Tackle Any Goal

A few weeks ago, I set myself some goals for where I want my business to be in the next six months.

It didn’t take long before these goals felt super out of reach and unattainable. I started to experience a lot of self-doubt and overwhelm.

Maybe you know this feeling.

Then, I had this incredible coaching session with Jeannine Yoder who asked me a very powerful question which led me to an incredible discovery about what is possible in six months and just what it took to accomplish it.

If you’re anything like me and sometimes see goal-setting as scary because you don’t know where to start—or perhaps it just seems totally out of reach so why even bother—then check out this video.

In this video, I’m going to share with you the powerful question Jeannine asked me that totally transformed my belief about my goals along with the five things I discovered that can help tackle any goal in a way that feels easy and expansive.

No matter what size the goal, the only way to get there is one step at a time. {Tweet that!}

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

What goal do you have right now that might seem nearly impossible and what is one step that you can take today to move yourself towards reaching it?

Please take a moment and share in the comments’ section below this post. I’d love to generate a number of ways that people are taking steps toward achieving their goals in a way that feels light and expansive so that others can be inspired to do the same.

Goals don’t need to feel unattainable when we remember to keep putting one foot in front of the other. So please pass this along to anyone in your life who you think might benefit from being reminded of how we can experience more ease and less disappointment in order to truly have the life we want!

If you desire more support in experiencing more ease and seeing where you are already accomplishing incredible things, I invite you to sign up for one of my complimentary discovery sessions.

With gratitude…

Amanda

P.S. I’m getting giddy with excitement to make a big announcement which I don’t want you to miss so be sure to sign up if you haven’t already!


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How to Have Less Stress by Cleaning up Your Beliefs: Part 2

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I have often been tormented by the questions: Do I keep it? Do I throw it out? What if I need it later?

As I started cleaning up my beliefs the same way I clean out my closet, the same questions started to come up. Our beliefs, much like our closets, can easily get overtaken by years and years of ignoring the build up and not taking time to pause and question what is really going on.

If you’ve ever wondered how to start sifting through your beliefs and learn once and for all how to begin to turn them around, then this video is a must watch! You’ll learn a simple tool to take charge over your beliefs once again and start making a little more space for the ones you really want.

As I mentioned in the video, sorting through our beliefs requires we:

  • Decide what to keep and what to purge,
  • Assess what is serving us and what isn’t anymore,
  • And accept that our beliefs aren’t necessarily true.

That last one can be pretty hard to swallow sometimes. But when we begin to challenge our beliefs, incredible things can happen.

Challenging our beliefs is one of the most powerful ways to start letting them go. {Tweet that!}

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

What are 3 beliefs that are holding you back in some way? Then, see if you can find 3 pieces of evidence in your life (or in the world around you) to invalidate or challenge each one.

I’d love to see what you come up with so please take a moment and share in as much detail as possible what you come up with in the comments below this post. Your story may be just what someone else needs to hear to have a breakthrough.

Feeling the overwhelm of beliefs that no longer serve us is something that most of us can relate to. Please pass this along to your friends and others in your life who you think might benefit from having less stress and more ease in their life!

Want to receive next week’s video directly to your inbox? Be sure to sign up so as to not miss out on what we do with those beliefs that no longer serve us!


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The Only “What If” Question We Ever Need to Ask Again

I cannot count how many times I wonder things like, “what if this happens” or “what if that happens” and “oh my god, but what if…?!”

These questions and focusing on the future are not nearly as helpful as I want them to be. Instead of getting answers and feeling better about things, I often end up with more questions and feeling a lot worse.

So … I’ve decided that I’m going to do my best to refrain from asking any “what if” question EXCEPT for the only one that actually helps me experience more peace, ease and flow in my life. One that actually provides me with more answers and feeling better than before I asked it.

Wanna know what the one “what if” question is ….?

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WHAT IF IT ISN’T TRUE?

I imagine many of us have stories that we tell ourselves on a daily (if not hourly) basis that limit us or hold us back. These stories usually aren’t fairytales or even awesomely powerful “I can do it” stories.

They are more often than not stories that tell us how we aren’t good enough or why things don’t work out for us or why we could never do this or that.

It is these stories that make up our belief system — about ourselves and about the world around us.

And it is our beliefs that beget our actions and behaviors. So … if we want to change a behavior, the first place to look is at the stories we tell ourselves and what beliefs we carry.

They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

If we want to start moving the needle in the direction towards global sanity, we need to start by looking within at the beliefs we each hold that are driving the same ol’ behavior over and over again.

Here are a few suggestions on how to start this process.

Acknowledge that a story and belief even exist.

Before we can change anything, we must first admit it exists. We need to admit that the beliefs we hold to be absolute truth are just based on stories that we have been telling ourselves for as long as we can remember. And while these stories are based on our personal experiences or the experiences others have shared with us, they are still our creative interpretation of reality which started to form our view of ourselves and the world. Before we can do anything else, we need to take the first step (albeit possibly the hardest) and say, “This is a story I keep telling myself.”

Question the belief.

Now that we have acknowledged that our beliefs are nothing more than stories we made up and reinforced time and time again, we can begin to question them. We can start to ask ourselves, “what if this isn’t true?” Another way to do this is to question what other possibilities exist? And one of my favorite ways to reframe our beliefs is to ask “who would I be without this story?” This helps us take more responsibility in how we are behaving based on the story or thought we choose to believe. The more often we can put ourselves in the driver’s seat and make powerful, conscious choices on what we believe and how we act, the more often we will experience peace, ease and flow in the world.

Replace your stories with new ones.

Once we start shifting our perspective and see that there are other stories that are equally as valid and probably even serve us better, then we can start to form new beliefs. This can be done by establishing some positive habits and rituals like gratitude, affirmations, setting soulful intentions and focusing on that which we want to bring more of into our lives.

The great thing about stories is that they can be rewritten.

I get it — we like our stories. We think they are who we are. They are comfortable and we know them all by heart!

But when they hold us back and limit us from being our best authentic self, then it is time to get out the red pen and start making some edits. It might even mean scrapping the whole story altogether and starting over from scratch.

What is one story you keep telling yourself over and over again that you are willing to acknowledge, question and possibly even replace? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!


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3 Paths to Get What We Want — Which One Do You Choose?

A few months ago, I challenged myself to eliminate caffeine from my diet for 2 weeks. The 2 weeks turned into almost 2 months. Initially, I started exploring alternatives like herbal teas and even decaf espresso at times. Then, I started to notice how in my search to expand my possibilities and remove my need for something I actually started to institute a new limitation. All of sudden, I couldn’t drink caffeine. I was afraid to drink it as it might reignite my addiction.

This became its own limitation. Just another extreme. When I noticed this, I consciously ordered a cup of coffee. While I didn’t enjoy it as much as I used to, I appreciated the fact that I permitted myself to know what I do and do not want at any given time.

When we are about to do something or not do something it is because we are going for something we want in life — to relax, fit into our jeans or just feel better.

This may come in the form of making resolutions and choosing to restrict certain things from our lives. Or perhaps by indulging in anything and everything that we want.

Either way, these both limit us from making mindful, purposeful choices in each moment.

There is a third — and much more empowering — way to get what we want in life.

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The Buddha once said that “a path of moderation, between the extremes of sensual indulgence and self-mortification … was the path of wisdom.”

When we are about to do something to get closer to what we want, there are three ways we typically come to this conclusion.

“I can’t so I guess I won’t”

When I eliminated caffeine from my diet, I initially did so from a conscious place — choosing not to drink it mainly for health reasons. Then, it became an “I can’t so I guess I won’t” decision which was very limiting and no longer based on the few specific reasons I had originally identified.

When we make decisions based out of self-denial, we lose an opportunity to get to know ourselves and get really clear on why we choose not to do something. We also end up making decisions out of fear, judgement, resistance or attachment.

“I can so of course I will”

Before I gave up caffeine for those few weeks, I had gotten into a habit of having one or two cups of coffee each morning not because I actually wanted it but because I could … and I always had. It had become just as limiting because I was no longer checking in and making a conscious decision to have it.

When we permit ourselves to indulge in whatever we want just because we can, we miss an opportunity to really check in and see if that is what we want in this moment. We become a slave to ourselves and lose a chance to actively guide our life in the direction we want it to go.

“I can and I choose …”

… to do it or not. In either case, I empower myself to choose what serves me best in that moment. We can still choose not to do something in which case it is done from a place of knowledge and acceptance of oneself and not out of fear, laziness or greed.

When we realize we can do something and choose not to, we demonstrate our strength and power in the world. When we realize we can do something and choose to do it, we honor ourselves and have a chance to practice acceptance and letting go.

Living at the extremes of life can ultimately be quite limiting. The joy comes when we live somewhere in the balance of it all.

Striving to live a life in moderation is more than saying “yes” to some things and “no” to others — it is about getting quiet and making mindful decisions in each moment that reflect and uphold our values and principles in the world.

That is how we can ultimately get what we want out of life.

Think of one thing you consistently deny yourself of or indulge in. Is that based in a value or principle and, if so, what is it? If not, think about what it would feel like to empower yourself to no longer live by this limitation and instead consciously choose in each moment what you want to do.