Amanda Johnson

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How Learning This One Thing Changed My Life

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Why is life so f*cking hard sometimes?

Up until a couple of years ago, this was a recurring question for me. My life was filled with stress, worry, never being good enough, always wanting something more, never knowing what that something was.

My critic ran the show.

I was depressed, moody, uncertain of what to do with my life. I felt like I was going nowhere. And I was so tired of feeling that way.

Then I finally woke up and I started asking a different question.

Why would I want to experience life this way any longer?

It’s pretty clear that most of us walk around every day feeling pretty miserable.

Maybe you’re one of the lucky few who have woken up and realize that there is more to life than going through the motions, feeling sorry for ourselves, and wishing it could be easier.

Well, I’m here to tell you that we can all wake up and feel less miserable.

When I finally decided that I didn’t want to feel that way anymore, some pretty incredible things started to happen in my life.

And it all started with one crazy idea.

I am not my thoughts.

I am not my emotions either. Whoa.

When we recognize that we are not our thoughts or emotions, we can question them without questioning our true identity. Knowing that I am not the thoughts in my head, I can then sit back and observe them for what they are—just thoughts. Knowing that I am not the feelings in my body, I can observe and feel the emotions for exactly what they are—physical sensations in my body attached to a thought.

I learned that I am okay.

Part of knowing that I’m actually the observer of what is going on meant that I could be okay no matter what happened. If I am not my thoughts, then I am not the one who needs to be perfect (that’s my inner critic). It was my thoughts (aka ego) telling me that I had to be or do it a certain way. When I started to question that, I started to notice that even when I don’t act or do things a certain way, I’m still okay. (I dare you to try it. Think of one thing you always do and stop doing it. See what happens.)

Life got so much easier.

Seriously. Things just feel so much easier when I’m not constantly believing every little thought that pops into my head. My relationships got easier—I wasn’t constantly worried about what the other person thought about me. Work got easier—I wasn’t constantly worried that I wasn’t doing enough or would somehow “mess up.” And alone time got easier because I learned to enjoy the moment while watching my thoughts from a distance.

Things worked out.

When I started exploring this new way of being, I went from living out of fear and scarcity to living from a place of trust and abundance. I went from thinking “what if?” to trusting that it will work out. And guess what? It did! I quit my job with no plan B … and everything has worked out!

I still have those days even now (though they are fewer and farther between for sure) when I slip back into feeling depressed or unhappy or judgmental. The difference is I have learned to accept that this is just part of being human and how to find my way back to my true self.

When we start to question our thoughts, we can change our entire experience of living. [Tweet that!]

What has been one of the most important things you have learned to help you when you’re feeling down or out of sorts? Share in the comments below and help others learn new ways to improve their experience of life.

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Author: Presence Matters

Amanda Johnson has one mission: to help people turn their critic into their ally so they can love the life they have and have the life they want. She does this through her work as a writer and presence coach. After years of struggling with depression, motivation and finding any purpose, Amanda made a choice to transform her experience of life. She realized that when she resisted, judged or attached to “what is” she suffered and that this is true for all of us. From this place, the idea to help others cultivate ease and joy through “Presence Matters" was born. Amanda is a seasoned professional with more than 10 years’ experience performing, educating, facilitating and consulting for Fortune 500 companies with the personal mission to reach and change lives for the better. Her passion for helping others—be it a 2nd-grader or a CEO—and her ability to connect with and inspire those she meets are unleashed by her wit, charm, and eloquence, making her message resonate deeply with her audience. For more information and to work with her, visit www.amandajohnson.tv.

8 thoughts on “How Learning This One Thing Changed My Life

  1. Good reminders Amanda. What has been most helpful for me is to notice my feelings, and offer loving acceptance regardless of the thoughts or feelings. I am learning to be the loving parent to myself. 🙂

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  2. Remember to nourish myself – and by nourish I don’t mean go shopping, eat chocolate or watch bad tv :). I mean do yoga, meditate, go somewhere beautiful or just notice the beauty around me, or lie in the sun and read.

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  3. Ive learned that I should not compare my life with:
    – these very talenten youngsters, they living an amazing life perhaps, but my life is amazing aswell in a different way
    – these teachers i admire. I can admire them, but i must not compare it. They are a generation or more, older than I am. My wisedom Will come. I just have to be patiënt and appreciate that they are wise and I can learn from them

    For me, not comparing my life with others and above all, not to be Jealouse at or with somebody, makes my life a lot more pleasant 🙂 ANd this inspirational blog ofcourse!

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  4. Reblogged this on Kim is thinking out loud and commented:
    Ive learned that I should not compare my life with:
    – these very talenten youngsters, they living an amazing life perhaps, but my life is amazing aswell in a different way
    – these teachers i admire. I can admire them, but i must not compare it. They are a generation or more, older than I am. My wisedom Will come. I just have to be patiënt and appreciate that they are wise and I can learn from them

    For me, not comparing my life with others and above all, not to be Jealouse at or with somebody, makes my life a lot more pleasant 🙂 ANd this inspirational blog ofcourse!

    Liked by 1 person

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