Amanda Johnson

Love the life you have and have the life you want

Ever Wondered What It Would Be like to Give Yourself a Break?



Uff da.

For the past couple of weeks, I was in a real funk.

I was in a state of malaise pretty much every day. And I felt frustrated with myself that I couldn’t figure out why. I over-analyzed it, worried about it, and tried to make it go away.

What I noticed?

The more I fought it, the more it persisted.

So I eventually tried something else—I let myself off the hook. I allowed myself to be in a funk. I gave myself what I needed in the moment.

Maybe you’ve been in a funk or given yourself a hard time for feeling a certain way before, too.

What I learned is that the greatest gift we can give ourselves during times like these is a break.

Yup. A good ol’ fashioned hall pass.

This doesn’t mean we need to lose ourselves in something else that only takes us out of the moment even more. It means we lovingly acknowledge where we are in this moment and remember that funks happen. And nothing lasts forever.

When we give ourselves a break, we are honoring and accepting where we are in this moment. {Tweet that!}

Of course this isn’t very easy for the ego to accept. The ego wants to remind us just what we aren’t accomplishing or what we “should” be doing or why feeling this way isn’t okay.

Luckily, we are more than just our ego.

And when we choose to observe where we are with non-judgmental awareness and give ourselves a break, some incredible things happen.

1. We discover that things still get done.

Arianna Huffington talks about this very thing in an interview with Marie Forleo where she talks about priorities and to-do lists. And if we are really honest with ourselves, the stuff that has to get done, gets done. No matter how long our list is or how much we think we “should” do.

When we give ourselves a break, we can trust that the important things can still get done and everything else can wait.

2. We get a chance to slow down and reevaluate our values and priorities.

Sometimes we are in a funk or feeling bleh because we haven’t taken the time to understand what we value and how we want to prioritize our time. It’s easy to feel like slaves to our tasks and responsibilities. But, remember, we are always choosing how and where to spend our time.

Taking a break gives us a little breathing room to ask ourselves: is what I’m doing aligned with my values? If not, how can I shift things around so this is the case more often?

3. We are reminded that nothing lasts forever.

Just like seasons, everything changes. Including our moods and levels of productivity. Sometimes it is hard to remember this when we are in the throes of a funk. And yet it is still just as true.

When we give ourselves a break, we are lovingly reminding ourselves that this too shall pass.

Funks happen. Some days are better than others. The next time you experience this, give yourself a break instead of beating yourself up, and see if any of these are true for you.

I’m sure there are other things that can happen when we give ourselves a break. What am I missing here? I’d love to hear what you have to say in the comments below!

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Author: Presence Matters

Amanda Johnson has one mission: to help people turn their critic into their ally so they can love the life they have and have the life they want. She does this through her work as a writer and presence coach. After years of struggling with depression, motivation and finding any purpose, Amanda made a choice to transform her experience of life. She realized that when she resisted, judged or attached to “what is” she suffered and that this is true for all of us. From this place, the idea to help others cultivate ease and joy through “Presence Matters" was born. Amanda is a seasoned professional with more than 10 years’ experience performing, educating, facilitating and consulting for Fortune 500 companies with the personal mission to reach and change lives for the better. Her passion for helping others—be it a 2nd-grader or a CEO—and her ability to connect with and inspire those she meets are unleashed by her wit, charm, and eloquence, making her message resonate deeply with her audience. For more information and to work with her, visit

7 thoughts on “Ever Wondered What It Would Be like to Give Yourself a Break?

  1. Great insights Amanda. I’m glad you surrendered to your funk and found the blessings. And thankfully out emotions flow when allowed to be.

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  2. I love this :). The other day I was in a funk. No reason, that I could see, just in a funk. I thought I might need a rest, so I sat in my favourite possie out in the back verandah and read, normally a cure for all ills. Nothing. I thought that I might need a treat, so I had a chocolate biscuit. Nada. I just sat there, in my funk, thinking grumpy thoughts. And then a gentle voice reminded me – just do the next thing. Ah, right. So I looked around and saw that the clothes needed taking off the line. Then another load needed to be put on. And then…after an hour or to I felt fine. Just do the next thing. And then the next 🙂


  3. Thank you for “permission” to acknowledge the funk times and for pointing out their “benefits.” They tend to take me by surprise. It’s good to be reminded that they too shall pass, because they always do. I’m glad to know they actually can be useful!

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