Amanda Johnson

Love the life you have and have the life you want

10 Simple Ways to Truly Love the Life You Have


One of my favorite things to do is read people’s “top 10” lists.

It feels like I’m receiving a ridiculously short “how to” guide on life.

I wanted to create my own and share how I put some of what I’ve learned into practice to honestly love the life I have and have more of the life I want.

I’ve gone from feeling depressed, anxious, constantly stressed and worried to feeling way more calm, compassionate, at peace and in love with myself just the way I am.

Don’t get me wrong. It took more than just doing these 10 things, but each of these now contribute to a much happier and more joyful experience.

Here’s how I practice what I preach on a regular basis to truly love the life I have.


1. Attitude of gratitude

Whether this is journaled, shared with a friend, acknowledged in my mind or as part of a Gratitude Circle, regular gratitude is a key component to me being good with being me.

2. Daily meditation

Spending just 5-10 minutes a day in meditation makes a world of difference. Typically done first thing in the morning, this creates space to appreciate where I am now and learn how to be more at ease with my thoughts throughout the rest of the day.

3. Simple morning ritual

Along with meditation, I implement a very simple morning ritual that consists of drinking a glass of warm lemon water and spending a few moments journaling or writing. Whatever the ritual, it is a great opportunity to have a reliable way to do something for ourselves each and every day.

4. Take it all in

As often as possible I take time to look around and appreciate what is all around me. That might be while walking down the street or sitting at a desk or at a favorite restaurant. This is a great way to get back in the moment and out of any pesky thoughts, fears or worries.

5. Be selfish

Sometimes to love the life I have requires being a little selfish. Maybe that’s spending more time with friends. Having a night in on the couch. Being more mindful about what I commit myself to. Whatever it is, it’s important to check in with our needs on a regular basis and ensure that they are being met as often as possible.

6. Set intentions

One of the greatest things I did was set intentions for the year ahead. Having more clarity on my true desires and how to cultivate more of that on a regular basis helps reduce the “should-ing” and self-doubt.

7. Connect with others

It is amazing what happens when I make eye contact with strangers on the street or give a compliment to my barista. As humans, we need connection and it is one of the quickest ways to experience more joy and spread that joy to others.

8. Smile more often

I make a conscious effort to smile at people. It is such a small gesture that makes a world of difference. It’s also fun to smile at myself more often—whether that’s in the mirror when I’m getting ready in the morning or simply when lost in my own thoughts.

9. Celebrate on a regular basis

Acknowledging what I do (even in a small way) makes it a whole lot easier to love myself and the life I have created. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in what else there is to do or what hasn’t yet been done but it is so important to take some time to celebrate what is happening right now.

10. Be 100% present (as much as possible)

There will always be a million things that want my attention but the more often I give one thing my full presence, the more joy I experience. Whether that’s choosing to do the dishes or talk to a friend or go for a walk.

We all know that there is no magic pill or get-(fill-in-the-blank)-quick fix. The most important thing is that whatever we choose to do, we do it from a place of love and acceptance.

We can’t get what we want until we love what we have. {Tweet it out!}

What are some of your favorite ways to practice what you preach and love the life you have? Leave a comment below and inspire others!

P.S. If you are interested in better understanding what you have and how to love it, I invite you to join me for a complimentary Inner Essence Discovery Session. I have 3 spots left and would love to be your guide to discovering what makes you you.

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Author: Presence Matters

Amanda Johnson has one mission: to help people turn their critic into their ally so they can love the life they have and have the life they want. She does this through her work as a writer and presence coach. After years of struggling with depression, motivation and finding any purpose, Amanda made a choice to transform her experience of life. She realized that when she resisted, judged or attached to “what is” she suffered and that this is true for all of us. From this place, the idea to help others cultivate ease and joy through “Presence Matters" was born. Amanda is a seasoned professional with more than 10 years’ experience performing, educating, facilitating and consulting for Fortune 500 companies with the personal mission to reach and change lives for the better. Her passion for helping others—be it a 2nd-grader or a CEO—and her ability to connect with and inspire those she meets are unleashed by her wit, charm, and eloquence, making her message resonate deeply with her audience. For more information and to work with her, visit

7 thoughts on “10 Simple Ways to Truly Love the Life You Have

  1. Great tips Amanda. I like the celebrating part! 🙂 I was just talking to a buddy about thriving and remembering I want to be more intentional about choosing activities that feed my soul like intimate conversation, nature time and hugs! blessings, Brad

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    • Me too! And finding a way to regularly celebrate is so important and fun! 🙂 I love how you are being more intentional about activities that feed your soul and getting more touch in your life – it’s so good for us to have more physical touch in our lives! With gratitude, Amanda

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  2. PS, touch is a big one for me, that I need and want more as I posted about today!


  3. Hi Amanda!! I loved this blog entry. Truly resonated with me and it was a wonderful reminder. So happy to have connected with you!!

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  4. Great tips Amanda … and for me, I would add breathe fully and move your body to this list 🙂

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